I am trying to plan my sister 's(Shae) wedding shower however, am having trouble with one bridesmaid. Shae is getting married on September 20, however she lives 5 hours away from the town where we grew up. She has twin boys who are 4 months old and do not travell well.She is back home visiting for three weeks and I would like to have her shower within the three weeks. That way she would not have to travel with the babies anymore than possible ( our cousin is getting married the weekend before Shae's wedding and she is coming home for that too). As it sits right now, Shae will be coming home three times withing the next five weeks (one for Tara's wedding, her own wedding and her stagette). I think that it is a lot for her to do with twins, and the stress of long distance wedding planning. There are five bridesmaids, and of all of them only one has a major problem with it..she wants to plan everything for Shae's wedding, and thinks that I should back off (Iam the maid-of -honor) because I am Shae's sister and it is rude for the sister of the bride to plan a shower. My quiestion is this..IS it rude for me to plan Shae's shower (I am including the other bridesmaids) and is 5 weeks to early for the shower considering the distance factor?
According to etiquette, it is not the place of family members to plan the bride's events. HOWEVER, because you are the MOH, I think this overwrites the previous statement. My sister is my MOH and heck yeah, she's planning my stuff because she knows me the best and knows what I will and won't like (phallic drinking containers and condoms on a cheap veil, NO THANKS!!). I guess I would recommend heading up the planning but include the other bridesmaids in it as well and ask for their input. I'm hoping that the one bridesmaid who has a problem with you isn't trying to haul your sister out here for another weekend...she should be more understanding to your sister's situation rather than being upset at being upstaged.
