Here goes...We're pregnant with our second child, our first turns three this month. The second due in July.
I have no real close friends..a neighbor friend does stuff together and we have play dates but i couldn't lean on her to have a shower for me. My Mother says its against etiquitte for the mom or sisters to hold the shower although for my first one a sis came down from out of state and planned it at our church. She is now mad at me and thats too long to get into. My other sis is a travelling nurse. Our first child has practically worn out everything we bought him, and we did buy all the big ticket items-crib, stroller,changing table ect..
He has climbed the changing table till we couldn't fix it anymore,lol. The crib also became unsteady and we've already purchased a new one. We are going to have to purchase a new stroller as well b/c he inadvertantly broke the hinge that holds the back up or reclines it..needless to say it would be nice to have a shower for at least the fun stuff . Does anyone have any suggestions. Moneys not a worry with my Parents or sisters-just etiquitte with my mom... I would foot the bill happily and have suggested it to my mom as long as she sends out the invites but she refuses,lol. I would hold it at my house even. I don't know what to do, whats wrong with wanting a shower??? Mom did suggest a baby shower luncheon" but who would hold it??? Great idea but i can't impose on these new friends. Any ideas, suggestions, or opinions are welcome. Thank you, Jeannie
I am not sure what the proper ettiquette for having a 2nd baby shower is but I wanted to give you my opinion anyway. So here goes... My brother had a baby shower for his wife's second child (first child is from a previous relationship) and he held it at thier home. He sent out the invitations and I made the favors, centerpieces and decorated. She was out shopping with him the day of the shower and didn't have a clue we were having a shower. My mother was not too happy with the idea of having a second shower (same reason as your mother) but we had one anyway. We ALL had a great time. You said that you don't mind paying for the shower nor do you mind having it at your home, why don't you have the shower yourself and call it a "Family Celebration", or do what your mother suggests and have the luncheon. You or your husband can send out the invitations. After the baby is born it won't matter who had the party, just that you all had a good time.
